A good portion of last evening was spent in the company of our local beat police officer. I was answering questions about an ongoing problem we’ve been having in the street with a bunch of kids in our back lane.
About five or six teenagers on scooters have taken to calling on one house in our street where their mate, lets call him Clark Drone on account of the noise his moped makes, lives.
In recent months their socialising has extended to having races up and down the back alleyway, beeping horns late at night, spitting and pissing in the back lane, not to mention the usual drinking and removal of windscreen wipers from neighbouring cars. Needless to say this loutish behaviour hasn’t gone unchallenged either to the responsible adult in the house (who shrugs her shoulders as if to say “What can you do?”) and Clark himself.
On his own, Clark is pleasant and agreeable enough but of course he adopts a different persona in front of his mates. When challenged about his behaviour he’ll retort “Can’t you take a joke” or “I didn’t mean it” and if he’s feeling particularly brave sans admirers, “It wasn’t me.” This is not to say he doesn’t also show some remorse as occasionally there will be an apology grudgingly issued. Yet there’s always a sense that he’s not sorry for his behaviour but that what he’s sorry about is being called to account for his actions. You get the feeling with Clark that inside he’s thinking “Hey if you don’t like walking up the back lane then fuck off and walk up the front street.”
It’s true that a segment bordering onto the back lane is his property or that of the householder but it’s also a public space and as such there should not be any “no go” areas.
My experience in dealing with community develop issues tells me that unless this loutish, boorish attitude is challenged it will grow worse and the “no go” areas spread. It tends not to correct itself out of some sense of internal realisation that telling people to fuck off is somehow unacceptable. So that’s why the police were here last night.
Elsewhere. . .
Like many people I spend more time than I should looking at music-based message boards. I can justify this in part as research because I’ll most likely be moderating the guestbook on the DGM website.
In August this year Robert and I exchanged some thoughts about guidelines and ground rules. This was my first pass at how I thought the guestbook might function.
The aim of the guestbook is to provide a meeting point between DGM and KC (and related) enthusiasts. I like to think of it as a public tea room where people can come in pull up a chair and tell us what's on their mind over a refreshing pot of Darjeeling or Earl Grey.
This isn't the place where you come to score points, settle vendetta and generally curse all and sundry for being clones, wimps, ass-kissers, berks, nerks, crints and brown-nosers because someone has the brass-neck temerity to disagree with you and your God-given views.
Now I realise that this runs counter to 90% of what's out there on the boards but there's nothing in the small print that says we can't lift our knuckles off the ground is there?
Healthy scepticism is encouraged but so is responsibility.
Remember the person you're talking to is real with real feelings and emotions. If you want to pick a fight with someone just because they think Cheerful Insanity is better than Discipline then…hmmm, bad example but you get the drift.
My rule of thumb is I don't say anything online that I wouldn't say in person.
Ask yourself these three questions; "why am I making this post?" "In what way does my post add constructively to the debate here?" and "should I should wipe off the pizza stains of my facial hair, find my glasses and get a life instead of posting here all the time?"
The guestbook is an opportunity to engage in constructive debate, discussion and dissention amongst friends and fellow enthusiasts. Nothing is off limits save witless sexist and racist comments and your morbid desire to share your intimate moments with gum-boots, duck tape and an orange.
You don't have to agree with everything that's being said but don't be coming into our nice tea room thinking you can take a dump on the carpet - the staff don't like it and you won't be welcome anymore.
Everyone should get the benefit of the doubt at least once but after that kid, you'll be invited to go and share your rapier-like wit and repartee elsewhere. Remember, what brings us here is the music.
Within these scant guidelines nothing is off limits save emoticons. If you can't say something without relying on those little yellow boogers then you definitely need to turn off your computer and greet the real world that lurks outside your door.
Remember, what brings us here is the music.
To which Robert replied. . .
dear sid,
yours is a lot more fun, but mine is shorter! it also implies that online posting is now a more matured event than 7-8 years ago.
yo! r.
DGM Guestbook House Rules
Posters are invited to comment, and express considered opinions, on pertinent issues that hold value for them, subject to the House Rules:
1. Accepting responsibility & accountability for the posting;
2. Engaging in a spirit of goodwill.